Basically, this is a conversation that needs to happen. They’re stressed because they have no clue what this dude wants because they’re too scared to say what they want. So, for lack of a better choice of words, man up and have The Talk with your guy after a few weeks of dating.
I know too many girls who have been hooking up with a guy they really like for months and are too afraid to ask him what he wants. No matter what happens, I promise that you won’t regret figuring things out on your own.
I believe in my relationship because of the small things we do for one another every day.
Like yesterday, when my husband sent me a weird cat GIF at the exact moment I needed to laugh. I’ve never been a particularly romantic person, but that felt pretty special to me.” — Danielle He was the nicest.
We’ve been together for eight years — through four apartments, two career changes and one wedding — and yet expressing authority on this subject isn’t something I do easily. I’m not sure you ever really know something as big as that.
“That said, I’ve always thought of love as an action, not a feeling.
I just had this instinct from that very first conversation that this person was going to be important in my life; that he was, well, the one.” — Laura We became a team.
When we first started dating, we reveled in that blissful early stage — the one where you each see the other as beautiful, brilliant sex-deities and you become pretty sure that, before you met each other, you were just two zombie pod people wandering aimlessly through the world, waiting for soulmates to open their eyes and show them what it means to live? “Several months later, we reached that slightly less exciting, but much more comfortable (read: sweatpants) second phase of the relationship, the one where you realize you’re just two human beings trying your best despite numerous faults and shortcomings. We were a unit, and life has become an amazing, joyful, silly, scary, confusing, bittersweet thing for us to figure out together.” — Liz He made everything better.
So if I can talk about this with dudes, anyone can. Like I said, this might be a slightly awkward convo – there might be no getting around that. Would you rather be lame and sit around waiting to hear what he thinks or would you rather take the initiative and find out where his head is on your own? Here’s what to do: first of all, this conversation should happen in person, not through text messages, Facebook chats or even on the phone.
Second of all, you should be relatively calm when you bring it up.
When my husband finally announced our engagement, his friend famously said, ‘Congratulations on not being the stupidest person on Earth.’ The point is, even if it’s clear to everyone else in your life, sometimes it’s hard for you to just know.
Because it’s not so much a knowledge but a continuous process, choosing to share your life with someone, day after day.” — Jessica It was never a question.