Although it is not something I have to partake in, it is a subject that fascinates me.
I’m trying to convince a single friend who has lived in Turkey for two years to let me document her hilarious (and sometimes scary) Tinder adventures, which include one man calling her a “prostitute” after she told him she is posing nude for an artist. In terms of sexual politics, Turks veer much closer to the ‘conservative’ dial than the ‘liberal’ one.
Men see women as possessions and as many women grow up being treated like princesses, they develop unrealistic expectations of men.
And as women are told that ‘sleeping around’ is sinful, they either don’t do it, do it in secret, or shame women who are more sexually liberal than them.
I have watched (mostly) foreign and (some) Turkish friends grapple with dating and all its highs and—more often—lows, and have become endlessly fascinated with the subject.
When my partner and I first arrived in Turkey, we stayed with a pair of uni students.
These two young guys would have big groups of their male buddies over most nights but I never saw a single woman.
Almost 98% of the population is Muslim and has to follow stringent Islamic halal sex rules.
Sex is seen as something that should happen between a husband and wife, and practiced according to the teachings of Islam.