This doesn’t mean that you’re cold, distant or treat them like an object. If you follow rule #5, you will most likely avoid this entirely. You’re not bringing your problems into it and neither is he. Similarly, you are not arguing with each other or putting expectations on one another.
It simply means that you limit how you relate to them… If you notice strong negative feelings coming up in yourself, it’s time to end it. With all this in mind, this is why the next rule is super important…
and a messy, disastrous, regretful relationship situation.
FWB arrangements are super clean and simple: a relationship purely for sexual enjoyment and exploration. FWB arrangements are best thought of as a bonus to be enjoyed in your life, but not something you need to hold on to or possess… but you practice safe sex and educate yourself on what it means to have safe sex.
It is essential that you understand the risks involved with sex and protect yourself accordingly.
I don’t see society as a whole changing anytime soon, so my opinion is that it’s best to keep this sort of arrangement to yourself and not talk to your peer group about it (unless you feel you have someone you feel you can really trust, who won’t judge you, shame you, moralize you or gossip about you after you share the details… This relates back to rule #1 – when it ends, you want things to be clean…
you don’t want to have to explain to other people that it ended or your reasons why.