But many of the participants did find their partners.
One couple even left together to get a drink and continue their conversation, this time with the nuance of physical cues. Arthur Aron, after 45 minutes of interaction, the relationship of partners was rated closer than the closest relationship in the lives of 30% of similar students.
What is surprising is that there is no mention of the time limit being a particular hindrance to the participants in the original study.
One woman speculated that she probably would not have felt so pressured by the time limit if she had chatted with her partner in person because their facial cues would have made up for short or incomplete answers.
The purpose of this exercise is to form a sense of intimacy between you and your partner at an accelerated pace.
Some people made a beeline for the door, clearly not excited to meet their partners.
She found herself worrying over whether her partner found her answers too short or her transitions between topics too abrupt or rude.
She found it easier to give people more credit for their pauses and unfinished thoughts when you can see their facial expressions than when you’re sitting there waiting for their next typed-out response.
Once we had gathered all of their responses, we did our best to match the participants with a partner with whom they shared similar attitudes and values.
None of the participants had any idea who they had been paired up with.