And while you’re fooling around, giving your partner real time feedback about what you’re enjoying is a great way to encourage them to give you more of that thing, and also gives your sexual play the added edge of becoming more of a multi-sensory experience.
For a lot of people, it’s the details of dirty talk that make it so much of a turn on.
And no, it doesn’t take away from the sexiness of your dirty talk if you check in with them. It’s the same well-spring of respect that makes you think to ask your partner if their penis/clitoris prefers softer or firmer stimulation. it enhances the feelings of safety, comfort, and connection.
Whether because of being raised in a sexually repressed household, culture, or religious upbringing, when some people begin their foray into verbalized dirty talk, they feel an extra bit of resistance.
I prefer to call it erotic talk, but that is a subject for another day.)I’ll get into specific phrases you can use momentarily, but first, some guidelines to help you get your black belt from the dirty talk dojo.
A good rule of thumb with dirty talk is to tell your partner what you want to do to them/with them before you’re doing it, and then while you’re doing it, tell them what you’re liking about it.
I fucking love you and your perfect/delicious/sexy big/little (body part).”“I love having sex with you” transforms into “I love it when you grab the sheets when you’re about to come.Dirty talk can feel like walking through a minefield for a lot of people. Maybe something that you qualify as dirty talk is offensive, or laughable, or insane to your partner.It’s an area of sex that makes a lot of people feel silly because they’re unsure of how to go about it without feeling ridiculous. This is the ultimate guide to dirty talk, walking you through the things to generally avoid, include, and steer clear of altogether in order for you to dominate the world of dirty talk.(For the record, I don’t believe in the phrase “dirty talk” since there is nothing dirty about sex or talking about sex.Here are some examples of the easy, more challenging, and (for some people) more extreme levels of dirty talk that you can engage in with your significant other.Whether you’re starting out with dirty talk for the first time ever, or you’re starting to have sex with a new partner and just want to slowly test the waters, the following phrases have you covered.– That feels amazing baby– Come sit on my lap, love– Mmm… – I’m getting so turned on/wet/hard– Tell me what you like/if this is too hard/when you’re about to come– You look so beautiful/handsome/gorgeous/manly right now– What do you feel like doing to me?One of the fastest ways to boost the power and erotic, engaging quality of your dirty talk is to start using multi-sensory descriptive words.Most people dirty talk with two of their primary senses: sight and touch (i.e. While there’s nothing wrong with sticking to your comfort zone by staying within the parameters of these two dominant sexual senses, there’s so much fun to be had by letting your descriptive imagination run wild.A few examples of dirty talk phrases that use multi-sensory descriptions:– I love how you taste/smell.I could get drunk off of your juices/scent so easily.– I love the sounds you make– You sound so sexy when I’m going down on you– I want to fuck you until I can feel that sweet little pussy clenching around my cock– I want you to cum so hard that I feel your cock pulsing inside of me Every person has their particular trigger words that feel too jarring for them.Want some soft/easy starters for your titillating texts?Try out any of the following:– I’m really looking forward to seeing you tonight. – I’m having a really hard time focusing at work today…