Here’s the deal with the messaging thing: a lot of people have their own theories on how it works, what works best, etc. Others try “negging.” Some send long messages about their background and their overall philosophy and what they’re currently doing with their lives.
This guy gives us a lot to respond to, and prompts a discussion of books, authors, and reading without him even realizing it.
We’ve probably all “met” the online dater who messages us novellas (or maybe we used to be that person). Time and time again, friends of mine feel crushed when they build a strong rapport with someone in writing, yet when they meet, there’s no love connection.
All you need to say in writing is a couple specific things about their profile, respond to things they message you (assuming they’ve written to you), and ask a few questions (see #3).
Usually, though, they can see when you last logged in, so what does waiting really prove (aside from showing that you're busy and writing to other people)?
I know that sometimes we log in just for a moment and don't have time to write back immediately.