Most men simply don’t know that a profile is the equivalent of a resume – if you don’t have a good one, you’re not getting called for an interview. Women have the same ignorance about the importance of a profile, except they don’t experience the same failure as men.
As a result, they have no way to learn their lesson.
Except Nancy pouring her heart out as a 45-year-old divorcee in Seattle sounds just like April pouring her heart out as a 35-year-old single girl in New York.
The lists of adjectives, the lists of hobbies, the lists of bands and countries and books and TV shows, the clichés, the personal philosophy about life and love and honesty and trust. It’s perfectly articulate, perfectly earnest, and perfectly generic because most woman arrive at the same conclusions. And then we wonder why the level of discourse in online flirtation is so abysmal.
When women ask me (and boy, do they ask me), why do all the WRONG men write to them, I always have a two part response: 1) By your standards, 95% of men are the wrong men.
If you’re attractive, you will always get attention.Everybody likes “spending times with friends, good music and happy people”.If you want to know exactly how to attract women, look no further. I mean do guys know what goes on inside a girl’s head? So what better way to learn how to attract women than to ask the women themselves?Anyway, Jim, I know I’ve hijacked your question to say something that I’ve really wanted to say for awhile, but it’s an important point.If you don’t like the responses you’re getting, it’s incumbent upon you to change how people are reacting to your profile.But unless you bring your A-game in your essays, you’re probably not going to get the intelligent, witty responses that you crave.I have looked at a few websites, and some women seem to not really try to attract as much attention as they could. You want to make contact with single people who find you attractive.Although some factors (genetic makeup and wealth) are somewhat out of our control, there are many small changes you can make to appear like a man of status.Keep fit, hit the gym, eat healthy, and taking pride in what you wear.I have been reading your information regarding how men have to be unique and different when contact women just because of the sheer numbers of contacts they have. I have looked at a few websites, and some women seem to not really try to attract as much attention as they could.Blurry pictures, pictures of pets, the dreaded bathroom mirror picture (why do they do that), no information in the profile, the list goes on. Dear Jim, A young attractive woman using a webcam photo could write, “I hate you, I hate you, I hate you” as her profile essay and still receive 100 emails a week. However, your question allows me the opportunity to address something that I don’t know I’ve ever addressed before when it comes to online dating – how women sabotage their own experience by not trying harder.