But you’ll get better results if you keep the vibe on the up-and-up.The Creepy Mc Creeperson Headline You may think it absolutely hilarious to say that you’re “Looking For My Next Victim” or to advertise yourself as “The Original Ladykiller.” But trust us – you never want to use words like “victim” or “kill” in your dating headline.So you’ve signed up for a dating site like Plenty Of Fish, thought long and hard about your profile, and selected just the right pictures to demonstrate what a great catch you are.But there’s one area that’s still stressing you out: More specifically, coming up with one of your own. If you’re just hanging out on OKCupid or Christian Mingle, then you’re one of the lucky dudes who don’t need to stress over their headline.And when your ideal partner is scrolling through hundreds of names – Sally102, Jen NYC1, Lawyer Gal – a great username can be the very reason that someone contacts you. And you become convinced that usernames don’t matter. In my opinion, a username should be a pun or a play on words. Wine Not – for the wine aficionado Lady Go Go – for the world traveler Bach To Bach – for the classical music enthusiast Tender Legal – for the soft-hearted lawyer See the common thread?Most people take one of two wrong tacks when coming up with an online dating username:1) Putting ZERO thought into it: Bill10247, Claire T, Ally Cat2) Putting minimal thought into it, using a literal description: Tall Doctor, Gorgeous Goddess, Fun2Be Around The problem with these efforts, of course, is not that they’re “bad”, but rather that they’re BORING. All of them are plays off of real names, idioms or catchphrases, which is why they evoke smiles from readers.We just want you to see where they are and what they look like.
There are better ways to differentiate yourself than to sound like a serial killer.
As someone who has been an online dating coach since 2003, I’d venture to guess that I’ve not only seen more usernames than just about anyone on the planet, but I’ve written more of them as well.
Why do I think that usernames make a difference, when everyone knows that it’s all about the profile and photo?
In this article, we'll teach you some nifty tricks and tips to help you do just that – and to get a woman’s attention from the get-go … Because the purpose of a headline is to get a woman interested, the worst thing you can do is be boring or one-dimensional. The Captain Obvious Headline You might in fact be a “Southern gentleman looking for my cowgirl,” but – DUH.
Below are some mistakes to avoid (and, sadly, actual headlines we’ve seen). That’s why you’re on a dating site: because you’re looking to meet a woman.