Now that these relationships are over, these same people are all bad.Either they have a knack for picking the absolutely worst people with whom to be in a relationship, or they are seeing all of these people in a very distorted way.
Rather than listening to your concern and apologising, they will manipulate and flip the conversation, telling you all the things you've done to hurt and upset them.
"If they could not see anyone before you realistically or make any of these relationships work, they are unlikely to be able to do it with you." -- Elinor Greenberg, a psychologist who wrote the book "Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations: The Pursuit of Love, Admiration, and Safety" 8. "You may be in a relationship with an emotional manipulator if you see an emotional double standard in the relationship, experience your feelings being denied, criticised, or dismissed, find yourself 'giving in' to keep the peace, and see your self-esteem diminishing.
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And with a potentially toxic person, they have worked to create a false positive impression to worm their way into your heart. He could be all that -- the sleekest toxic people are. One person is giving and giving and giving, and the other person gives one back. And the other selfish person is typically fine with their needs being met.
"So even if they do something bad or say something that's off, you may think, 'He's only this way because he went through X.' This is when ticking boxes of 'Is he rude to the waiter? "But underlying it, if he says things like, 'So they'll treat us better the next time,' or he has a mean mouth towards some people, and if you find yourself justifying his transactional mindset or meanness, then it's time to pause and step back. But it's how you handle those disagreements that can really make or break things. "If you use somebody, you don't really care about them, or their well-being, or their overall happiness in life. It's almost like life is there to meet their needs and people are just commodities to get that done." -- Shannon Thomas, a therapist who wrote the book "Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse" 5. "Since red flags happen along the way road of abuse, victims see different behaviors as time and abuse goes on.