As long as the woman isn't too aggressive, she is gonna get a date 9 times out of 10.HOW TO HANDLE IT IF A NERD MAKES A MOVE ON YOU MAURA: Are nerds more or less likely to make the first move?You don't get to that point by hiding your geekiness and hoping that your date will accept this "flaw" because you've been otherwise charmingly normal. Using any of these items in your lists merely demonstrates your imagination void. As much as Jon Fnkel's ill-fated date with Alyssa Bereznak lit up the interwebs, wouldn't it have been better to prevent that mismatch to begin with? You can even defend your use of the Oxford comma, if you wish.I'm not saying that your profile needs to reveal that you hope your mate will be just as turned on by a Starfleet uniform in the bedroom as you are... Here are a few more cliches that litter online dating sites like toilet paper around the outhouse: "I'm not into playing games, I'm just a fun person looking for someone fun to hang out with, I like to cook, I love my family and friends, I enjoy travel." 6. This is not the place to rant about your last relationship, or spout gross generalizations about all women and all men.MATT: A male nerd is just as likely to make a first move as any other dude.
For instance, take the world's sexiest rock-star drummer, like a Tommy Lee. We all have oodles of insecurities about our strange quirks, and we're all dying to find that special someone who will find those quirks interesting. In fact, I was once dating a nerd, and he asked me whether I was cool or nerdy in high school.If he's able to spend 45 minutes explaining the different ways to tune a snare drum, then he's a nerd, too, on top of being a rock star NERDS ARE JUST LIKE THE REST OF US (OR WE'RE ALL LIKE THEM) MATT: Truth be told, I think we're all nerds — nearly every single one of us. The fact that he was having a hard time figuring it out was, in its own weird way, a compliment.I made him guess — and finally, he went with "nerd." And again, strangely, I was flattered. None of my friends cherish those awkward moments when first getting to know someone, finding a polite, but firm way to say, "sorry, not interested," or recovering from the misunderstood good-night face lean in which one participant attempted a kiss that landed somewhere awkward and unintended. Focus your attention on drawing in only the best matches. The fact that you are a parent isn't just about you, it's about your potential date as well. But among many, there should be a photo of you looking less than cover-shoot ready. Ah, if only dating could be reduced to such an efficient process! But there are definitely ways to write a better online dating profile.1. It's tempting to try to catch the eye of many potential matches so that you have more options, but this ultimately just wastes your time. Be up front, and tactful, about your parenting status.MATT: Just tell him you're a nerd too and share a story about how you were a smart little kid or can name 65 different handbag designers.He'll be instantly sidetracked from his own tales of nerdom and attracted to your own dorky pursuits. MATT: On a side note, however, if you ever want to "cure" him of his nerdery, that's a bad sign. Increase your pool of potential matches, anonymously share information in a way that allows you to filter out poor matches and rank potential good matches,then live happily ever after. To the quantitatively minded, online dating makes sense.but I am saying that you may want to state your position in the eternal Kirk v. Ignore all the advice that is designed to net you a high response rate. Nor is it appropriate to be "still married, but we're divorcing I promise, and we still live in the same house, but I'm not going to tell you that until after our second date."Got all that? Now consider a few geeky dating tips, and don't delay your in-person meeting.I'll be the first to admit that Ok Trends, the blog of Ok Cupid, is alarmingly seductive. As much as you both may have written brilliant online profiles, there's no replacement for that first face-to-face.