All of these dates were very stressful because of the time being I devoted just to get to the date.
First date failure, whether because she wasn’t what I was looking for or the reverse, was very difficult.
Around the eighth month of my online dating experience, I gave up on my “sincere” method of meeting girls and intentionally tried to meet as many girls as possible at once.
For the first few weeks, things were similar to my old method and I didn’t see immediate improvements but over time my dating life changed .
I was discovering which conversations worked better than others and was able to avoid bumps in the conversation all together.
The confusion of first-dates was disappearing altogether. I hadn’t even thought that having fun could be a part of online dating but as I grew more comfortable, I had more fun.
Better Definition As I went on more and more dates in a short time period, I realized that what I really wanted in a woman and what I had been willing to accept were very different.
There were several side-effects to this, aside from a busier schedule, that make me now believe this is the best way to approach online dating: 1.I would continue to date someone negative or rude or conceited and would just hope that things would just eventually “work themselves out”.All this changed when my dating schedule became very active.As the stress began to lessen, I started representing who I was much better.Early on I was always in a panic-mode: trying to make sure everything went perfect on every date, overly concerned about the happiness of my date, worried about the impression I was making and so on.It always felt like starting all over and was always painful.Once I even continued to date a girl just to avoid “starting over”.On one occasion when things were going very poorly, instead of stressing out, I told my date I didn’t think we were a great match but that we could still have fun over dinner.She seemed relieved and agreed to try to enjoy the dinner.Looking back, this only made my dates uncomfortable and left me looking either weird or desperate.When I had multiple dates lined up, I found myself very relaxed on each date.