Everyone will see you as one of those guys who knows how to make life after divorce for men over 40 really work. We've had it all: careers, marriage, kids, divorce. So, as my mother always says, about everything: "What could be bad?In my more than 10 years’ work with men over 40, I’ve yet to meet one who can immediately jump from being what he thought was happily married into the fabled life of a playboy.(No, not even the men who cheated on their wives can easily do this.)Men over 40 need time to shift from being a family man to being a single dad because you can’t just erase the lifestyle you’ve had for years as easily as flipping a switch. Step 1: Figuring things out This is the time when you make all the big adjustments and learn to live on your own again.
You’ll have figured out how to take care of you and your kids, you’ve already experimented with dating, and you’re ready to start experimenting with relationships or become that fabled playboy.
The stakes are so much lower than when we were in our 20s, juggling careers and the relentless anxiety of the have-it-all culture we were promised. We got the career, the husband, the house, the dog, the kids the All in Having It All. Now we've got older kids who turned out far better than we could have ever hoped; a cool job we finally feel challenges us and is worth our time; a fab circle of righteous and hilarious midlife BFFs we don't have nearly enough time to see.
"As I start to think about dipping my toe into the post-divorce dating over 40 pool, I do so with a renewed sense of my own beauty, wisdom, humor, perspective, power and choice. My problem is suddenly after hitting 40 I am being chased by men both much older and much younger than me. Why do they think a 44 yr old woman wants to date a 28 yr old guy?
Step 3: Getting over your divorce Divorce is one of the most hellish experiences anyone can have.
It takes time and effort to heal from the end of your marriage.