You must decide before you go on the date what your limits will be. It’s too difficult to think when passion overtakes you. You can resist temptation if you put on the whole armor of God (Eph. is a Licensed Professional Counselor, relationship expert, national speaker, and author of the book True Love Dates.Her newest book for singles and couples, Choosing Marriage, is available for pre-order and set to be released this Spring.Protect your heart by either taking a few steps back and giving him room to actually pursue you, or going ahead and asking him what’s up.“Our friendship is starting to look more like dating. ” Churches should encourage women not to just blindly follow, but instead to take responsibility for their relationships by protecting their hearts and minds from the zone of ambiguity, because it’s right there in the twilight zone of relationships that the most heartbreak and confusion actually occurs. But, the authority of Christ needs to take precedence over your physical drives. If the social, emotional, spiritual dimensions are missing or lacking, you are out of balance.
This can look different depending on the person and situation, but here are a few places to start: I always get questions from women disappointed in the men in their lives.
If you are dating someone who doesn’t have a personal relationship with Christ, you are playing with fire. Don’t let the relationship progress to a physical point and then hope you can cut it off later. You need all the help you can get in today’s world. Do you depend on Him to meet your needs of love and security?
If you can’t stand the person but have a great physical relationship, rethink the relationship. If one person is uncomfortable with any type of physical expression, don’t do it. Don’t push a date to do anything that makes him/her feel uncomfortable.
But what I would say to these women is to stop simply complaining about the “jerks” in your life and instead do something about it. I know they’re out there, because I interact with them every single day through my blog and through the churches, colleges and conferences I visit.
Take responsibility for your relationships by investing your time in people who value you.