Not only will telling your child how much you love them help reassure the child through difficult times, it will direct attention to your warm feelings towards your child—another great benefit of making this a common practice.Too often, we think of our softer emotions as a distraction from the business we need to take care of.Today, we live in a new era of divorce and remarriage, and many children don’t get to choose which parent to live with.
If, after a month or so, the mood in the house does not improve, speak to your partner about your stepchild’s behavior. Anger and disapproval are unlikely to resolve the issue.
Children know, in a way that is beyond words, that they are cherished when a parent sticks to the rules and dispenses discipline along with love.
Though many children might find it fun for a while when schedules and routines blow away with the wind, ultimately this leads to feelings of neglect. A blended family is often the inevitable result of a dating relationship after divorce.
Children are often not aware of all the reasons behind their behavior, and it can be difficult for them to articulate even those reasons they are aware of.
I find the best way to handle the situation is to take a position of friendliness. As a parent, your job is to provide your child with love, stable routines, and discipline. Just as spoiling your child may send a message that you do not care, the other extreme is equally nonconstructive.