To kick things off, I chose a picture of a guy doing all the right things for a dating photo. It's not perfect, but it's good for gauging general sentiment.
For now, I just want to understand what women's general impression is of this guy. Here's what I got back: Now that we have a baseline understanding of Joe's attractiveness, I made 2 copies of the exact same dating profile, on the 3 biggest dating sites where usernames are still used; Okcupid, Plenty Of Fish, and Match.
New stimulation is proven to change the way the mind thinks.
Ultimately, your dating username is just another part of your overall dating persona. And no woman is going to hold you to it during a meet up offline.
And I've seen usernames that dudes thought were hilarious, but actually terrible ideas (Statutory Ape..takers, ladies? Working from a sample size of under 1000 men, I don't have perfect data. A missed opportunity, and playing to a narrow audience who respond to the 1 dimensional approach.
But I have learned quite a bit over the years about what goes into a great dating name. This username plays to the mans ability and power, without coming across as conceited or arrogant. With surfing being one of the most attractive keywords a guy can include on his dating profile, this username is on the right track.
For example, let's say the funniest username for Po F you've got is Photoshop Cowboy. But when it's actually on your profile, next to your lead dating photo, it might not jive at all. Particularly on a more serious or conservative dating site, like Christian Mingle, or On these platforms, I find that less outrageous dating site usernames play better to these types of women. Try a kinder, more relationshipy sounding username. These days, Match has settled into their place as the best platform for folks over 30 who are looking for serious relationships, but younger men can also find success on the site. So it's fairly important to choose a good name for this site, to tie together your overall profile.
So instead, try keeping it simple, and aim for the funny bone in your headline and self description.
Keep in mind these examples work best for traditional dating websites.
Jot down your best ideas, and let them percolate in your mind for a day or 2.
Just like any form of creative writing, sometimes it helps to switch gears and do something else for a while.